Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of a Happy Valentine’s Day for All of US

 Host:  Angel Swan – Secret Admirer Mixer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement … Love of My Life … aka … Love for All of Life’s Goods: God, Self, Family, Nation & Creation

Saint Valentine’s Day … February 14, 2009 … State-of-the-Art Heart & Mind

Guess Who Loves YOU! … A Secret Valentine? … “Roses are red, violets are blue, to find out who loves you, here’s your first clue:  “Love and a cough cannot be hid.”

Clue #2:  Just for FUN & Just for YOU … Halo Muse … An Amazing & Amusing V-Day Present, Past & Future

Clue #3: Tansparency in Governance & Destiny … E-Mission & Celebration of True Love … To love the God or the Good in US, ”He that would govern or love others, first should be the master of himself.”

Disclaimer:  ”It Is No Secret (What God Can Do)” … The Mystical Spectrum of Love is as Beauty-full as it is Endless:  From Sweet Sorrow to the Hope and Bliss of Tomorrow … As such, it is no secret that daily celebration of love—sprinkled with special surprises from a Secret Admirer, the Easter Bunny or Secret Santa—may only be enjoyed by those who are young & young at heart!

Artist:  DebraClassen@aol.com … PO Box 23251, Chagrin Falls, Ohio 44023 … Ph. 216.832.4445 … The Mute Swan

 Host & Secret Valentine: … Angel Swan - SAM … “To cheat one’s self out of love is the greatest deception of which there is no reparation in either time or eternity.”

Top Ten Facts, Myths & Lies Beneath America’s Top Secret—Prohibition of the Good Life

 Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement: … Love of My Life

Fact or Myth:  If Some Men would go through a Change of Life, most Women and Children wouldn’t have to.  After all, if pigs can be intelligent and elephants can remember, how difficult can it be for a human being to abstain from lying, stealing, cheating & killing.

No religious or secular scholar can deny that men have been in charge ever since the beginning of civilization and continue to do so to this day.  With all growing pains behind us, one would think that the good life should be the staple for majority of our families.  Everything seems in our favor:  the rich legacy of our forefathers, our own accomplishments and miraculous achievements within all realms of our lives.  When one factors in state-of-the-art rights, personal & social stability should be more of a norm than an exception.  Except, that’s not the case.  One can’t help but wonder if infamous male chauvinist pigs are to be blamed for the new mutation of Female Chauvinist Pigs—Women and the Rise of Raunch (Author, Ariel Levy).  Although modern lifestyles continue to enjoy great popularity, some women still champion ethical equality while others opt for alternative vulgarity—most do so with great speed, power, vengeance or intolerance.  By NOW, liberal, traditional deception is blatant, arrogant & confident—because it’s only transparent to those it rendered powerless, rights to equal destruction continue.  Fact or Myth: If Some Women would go through a Change of Life, most Men and Children wouldn’t have to.

By now, our code of honor is as tipsy as our scales of justice.  After all, what is the difference between a male or a female gig when they both lip-sync.  ”This people honors me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me; in vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines human precepts.” Mt: 15:8-9 … Is it time for REAL Change & Protection for our Children?  ”Do not give what is holy to dogs, or throw your pearls before swine, lest they trample them underfoot, and turn and tear you to pieces.” Mt. 7:6      

Needless to say, even after years of social brainwashing, in the end, ”defilement comes not from what enters the mouth but from the evil thoughts and deeds that rise from within, from the heart.” (Instructions in the Catholic Faith)  For those without a Catholic Converter, good old-fashioned common sense will do.  As if, it doesn’t take a “Mensa Brain” to know that self-love and self-abuse are not one and the same. In fact, if Mensans were “da brains of the world,” they would have stopped fathers of our country from turning their backs on our children years ago—had they done the bright thing, instead of gloom and calamity, sonshine & stability would already be a reality.    

In all fairness, genuine leaders or “experts” have been trying to end our Crisis for decades.  Nonetheless, due to liberal, illogical & legal powers of the sick & famous, even the best of efforts continue to be extinguished.  Because objections to main causes of our Crisis date back to their roots, so do facts, myths & lies.  In fact, the Top Ten Secrets offer indisputable proof that in lieu of speedy justice, most leaders continue to endorse progressive negligence.  To date, although intellectual & technological advancements could make resolutions relatively easy, it will only happen when pigs fly or through ”encouraged” cooperation. 

For too long, our only options have been to fight, dream, read, write or beg for our rights instead of enjoying them!  Even today, with our Crisis in our face daily, most leaders or experts still treat it as our nation’s Top Secret! 

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It’s Time to Trump the Trump! … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”  

Yes, We Can Change—For Worse or For Poorer & in Helter Skelter

 Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement: … Love of My Life

If fake Democrats would get a divorce from the flakes in Hollywood, most of us wouldn’t have to … Change in exploitation & manipulation is not an option until victims are offered empowerment & truth. If Republicans were real keepers of traditional family values, divorces from our own good, each other or God would come to a natural dead end. Change in marital stability and moral-parental authority is not an option until Family Courts offer justice. “Love covers a multitude of sins” and creates a natural bond or equilibrium within marriages, families and society: for Better or for Worse, for Richer or for Poorer, In Sickness and in Health, Until Death Do Us Part.

“If there is but one truth, and you have that truth completely, toleration of differences means an encouragement to error, crime, evil, sin.” … “Religious tolerance is a kind of infidelity.”

Hate Crime? NOW that truth evokes hatred & danger in private as well as in public, it’s no longer a “private” matter of choice, rights to privacy nor freedom of speech with rights to artistic degeneration, expressing one’s toxic opinion or defamation of character. Just because abusers & criminals insist they have rights to violate others, it’s illogical to believe, justify, excuse or legalize their lies. Given that some of the “private” or “artistic” expressions have been so vile, laws need to be created, expanded or updated, instead of allowing some of the most heinous acts to be protected. Although it would be “absurd” to isolate & legislate truth on all levels, its public empowerment can do more good than thousands of laws. Naturally, truth in information & action are not only free but also easily verifiable. “Ethical truth is as exact and as peremptory as physical truth.” With public media as the greatest culprit behind loss of truth, accountability & reparations are vital—with truth being the fountain of good, lack of truth is nothing less than an order for a society to “cease and desist.”

End Social Malaise & Vote for Change?  CHANGE can be good or bad … To initiate the RIGHT CHANGE & to MAINTAIN ETHICAL INTEGRITY for the GREATER GOOD of our SOCIETY, CHANGE in our LEADERS’ AGENDAS MUST COME FIRST! Throwing around empty promises or money has always been a part of major elections. Truth in Information? When promises that we need aren’t even mentioned and money being promised will cause more harm than good, instead of calling it an election or choice we should call it exploitation of people’s desperation or needs. As already proven by the rich, sick & famous, even a significant increase in insufficient funds of “mass bribes” and even the best health-care programs WILL NOT cure, suffice or diminish our society’s Crisis. As such, fans of fanning the wrong fires are as dangerous as some of the media coverage or ads—”heads” of empty promises or attacks are in need of a reality check because insults to our intelligence are so blatant that only con-artists & their victims will not see through the pomposity, absurdity & danger!

21st Century Catch-22 … Insanity of Legal Violations … NOW that years of liberal cultural conditioning have been crowned by an unprecedented media blitz to energize all their cells—young & old, rich & poor, male & female—from this day forward, all Presidents of the United States will be elected by the media, not by votes.  To follow suit, majority of private & public interactions will lean to the left or continue to enjoy even more liberal levels of modernism.  Given that chances & choices for traditionalists range between slim to nonexistent, there is only one option.  Truth—Truth is the Root & Bond of Life.  Without truth there is no justice—without justice there is no law, order, integrity, loyalty, empowerment, honor or love.     

“What is truth?  For the multitude, that which it continually reads and hears …. What the Press wills, is true.  Its commanders evoke, transform, interchange truths. Three weeks of press-work, and the ’truth’ is acknowledged by everybody.”  Not every issue will pass this litmus test—some issues take longer than 3 weeks while some will NEVER change.  Nonetheless, despite the fact that vote manipulation is only a symptom of a deeper problem, ALL will object to vote fraud but not to forced social engineering of our lives nor its damages to individuals and society. 

The Change we Need is Possible, but neither Democrats nor Republicans are Offering a Whole-In-One!  With both parties currently out of touch with the American people, a Democratic win comes with a guarantee of more damages to all of us—a Republican win seems to offer similar damages but at a slower rate of return.  Naturally, just as President Bush has been very sincere in his efforts, so have Senators McCain and Obama—nonetheless, with all three leaders espousing three different ideologies, three different agendas cannot be right nor the frightful possibility of a liberal supermajority. 

Although President Bush has been unjustly treated by his own party & within the court of public opinion, he might be the only one with a proven record of fighting for the good of mainstream Americans. Even if his private beliefs might differ and his support for the Federal Marriage Amendment was limited, President Bush applied his leadership towards the greater good of all families. On the other hand, Senator Obama doomed protection of American families by calling the amendment a waste of time—”I know this amendment will fail”—there goes The Audacity of Hope and Tears are Here to Stay. Obviously, his decision was made on a superficial level without making the connection to its roots. If Senator Obama’s parents or teachers & preachers did not teach him about elementary needs of a society or the biological differences between “boys & girls,” common sense should have kicked in after his marriage. Such chain of events is usually true for all of us—after a rebellious youth & avoidance of truth, most of us do not transition into traditional maturity until we marry and have children. Unfortunately, like majority of the younger generation, Senator Obama seems to be a product of a mostly liberal society. As such, he seems to believe in honoring his own traditional marriage but not the institution of marriage itself—he also seems to believe in protecting his own children but not others. As a private individual, such options might be normal. As a community organizer, he has no excuse—Senator and Mrs. Obama are personally and deeply aware of the agony and helplessness of most African-Americans and others in similar situation. As such, more than any other leaders, Senator Obama should have made family stability & empowerment an integral part of the Democratic agenda. Had he done so, after months of public campaigning, exposure & opportunity, hope of real change might already be a reality.

Needless to say, with Senator McCain having the benefit of a traditional society throughout his childhood as well as suffering through a personal trauma of a divorce, there is no excuse for his indifference to No-fault injustice or for having “differences” of opinion with Governor Palin over her support of the Federal Marriage Amendment.  Naturally, if social stability was under control, there would be no need for constitutional amendments or media reforms.  Similarly, if family stability was under control, the need for No-fault divorce reform would not exist & neither would the need to include historically “private” issues in politics nor in public media.  However, because our country’s family Crisis has been shaped by public laws, media & courts of public opinion, family matters haven’t been “private” for almost 40 years. 

True or False:  “We live in a culture that would absolutely fall apart if the truth were told.”

None of us get up in the morning and deal with “national” issues before personal issues—it’s only natural for our own & our family’s needs to always come first. Because money and health care are as innate to every American as personal or family stability, sweeping family problems under the red carpet has been disastrous. As such, the connection between broken lives & sound leadership speaks for itself. Needless to say, there are many complex reasons why Democrats and Republicans treat family stability as a non-issue. Although addressing family matters during political campaigns would help to restore honorable stability for our families & country, it would do a lot of damage to both, Republicans and Democrats. Because “private or family” issues have escalated into a highly volatile dilemma, both parties perceive them as political suicide. Consequently & regrettably, both parties opted for winning the election instead of fighting to protect US and the US—just because relatively few “special interest” groups have a great deal of money & power, mainstream Americans have been sold to the highest bidder. By now, pretty much almost all opposition has been suppressed. There are relatively few objections to abuse of power within the public arena as well as self or other abuse in the private sector—most abuses are becoming “consensual” and enjoyable. As public reality & liberal talk-shows continue to dominate, traditional values rarely get a break—according to some sources, since Dr. Laura Schlessinger who “preaches, teaches, and nags” about morals, values, and ethics” has been threatened off the air a few years ago, only lips of the libs seem wise & special enough to educate and entertain us on the ABC’s of life and all public media. While liberals still allow traditionalists to speak, lack of an “all traditional talk show” on ABC, CBS or NBC speaks for itself—while traditional politics will sometimes get a break, traditional family values will not—one would think that they are almost illegal and have been barred from public airwaves because of their obscenity.

Just as parents need to maintain strong & sound leadership within their own homes, so do leaders of our society.  Honor for one’s family & country is one and the same.  No religious or secular scholar can deny that protection of our families against corrupt laws and media should have been a priority for both parties.  Oddly, actions of Senators Obama & McCain are in line with majority of our society—since most of us have made countless blunders throughout our own lives, most of us do not wish to revisit our past or to talk about change.  Although majority of us will never get over the pain & damages of ”No-fault,” most of us want to keep divorce laws as they are so as to keep our options open.  Nonetheless, avoiding the truth or legislating blunders into law is an injustice and danger unlike any other.  As such, ANY leader aspiring to be the President of the United States or ANY “expert” in a position of public influence, should ONLY be allowed to do so if they are capable of understanding & protecting core needs of individuals & society. 

It takes a great deal of audacity and brainwashing to compare the dilemma of civil unions to the separate-and-unequal status blacks were relegated to during segregation.  Every African-American should feel insulted.  ”The content of one’s character” or lifestyle is not the same as the color of one’s skin.  In fact, same-sex relationships are more akin to adulterous relationships because both separate sexual pleasure from logic, nature, responsibility & fidelity or for some, God.  As such, instead of playing politics with our lives, it would do our society more good if leaders like Senator Obama and McCain would address the truth—manipulation or engineering of our society has been so blatant, dangerous and powerful that the trail of betrayal goes beyond the Clinton Presidency all the way to the times of President Reagan.  

All of us should be shocked but not surprised that private & public violations of traditional American values are escalating instead of diminishing—damages are so vast that most parents trying to defend the truth in their own homes are often abused or accused by their own spouses or children as being dimwitted, hateful & vindictive—similarly, when conservative leaders try to defend the truth in the public square, all liberal “thinkers” accuse them of being angry, malicious & intolerant idiots.  As we speak, we’re silenced in our homes or society and only have the right to remain silent!  As we watch our children being bullied by our mates, relatives or abusive friends & enemies, our only choice is to pray and do damage control.  If all vital aspects of our lives were equal under the law, conservatives would not have to “keep their heads down and their mouths shut.” Women would not be told to “shut their traps.”  Due to daily escalation in damages, most statistics on abuse might be quite inaccurate.  Yet, aside from the large numbers of women & men who divorce, around “three quarters of those that don’t are unhappy.” Our children’s past, present & future are not very happy either: Most will not find trust, love & security in their homes, schools nor in our society—as stated in “Home-Alone America by the social scientist Mary Eberstadt: ‘child well-being’ has been judged to be in scandalous decline.”  Tragically, because most leaders aren’t wise enough to discern between character formation & education, most have been pushing college degrees instead of truth & honor.

We demanded a smokeless & wireless network, but not a liarless network. It’s odd that we were wise enough to hold a summit on obesity, but not on obscenity. In their ever famous art of distraction, “experts” claim that movies glorifying cigarette smoking are one of the greatest dangers to our children. If “experts” deem an “R” rating of such movies as mandatory, the same should apply to almost every show on ABC, CBS & NBC dominated by premarital sex, cohabitation, homosexuality, divorce, remarriage, swinging and all other popular “alternatives.” Or, perhaps we should start by rating psychologists—PsychoBabble, by Dr. Ed Bulkley, is of great importance to all of us but probably NOT to one of the major enablers of our Crisis: the American Psychiatric Association—by default, once the APA gave the green light to homosexuality, religious laws became obsolete and by now, their followers have been called every degrading name in the book. One would think that political labels are not much different—should we start rating journalists or commentators and other experts—as intimated by Mr. Bernard Goldberg, media Bias tends to ID political figures as “conservative” but rarely adds a “liberal” label to the names of “media elites” & legendary luminaries. Are we surprised that some children, spouses & parents are cool & hot while some are square & cruel?

Are traditionalists or religious truly represented & empowered or muzzled & powerless? 

All of us can “agree to disagree” about the color of a tie, but not about the noose around our neck. Hindering, overruling & outlawing of conservative philosophies is a highly dangerous fact of life—it’s not a harmless point of discussion. With great hostility & authority “experts” have all but proclaimed private & public conservatives as incompetent “anti-intellectual dolts” and losers—as such, conservative parents have as much leverage in their homes as conservative leaders have in our society. Currently, intelligent debates or discussions might even cause more damage because conservatives are usually outnumbered and without the same private & public base of support as liberals.

Since over 90% of us claim religious roots, “we the people” should be flourishing as “one nation under God.” Sadly, painful facts and reality speak for themselves. After liberal media saturation of our hearts, homes and society, none of us are surprised that liberal democrats continue to gain more ground, power, votes and control over our lives and society. Is there a chance that this is all a big, unintentional mistake? Not quite—all of us are well aware—especially those at the top—that our government, society & families form as close a bond as the holy trinity—we’re interdependent & inseparable. The same formula applies to each individual & family. Although tactics and numbers have been reconfigured, the same “marketing skills” used by travelling salesmen of the old west are applied today with the help of daily updates & upgrades in deception offered by modern technology. There is only one reality that cannot be reconfigured—God.

Modern geniuses are quite aware of the danger & power behind “religion.” Consequently, unable to compete with God, they regulated his exposure and now, most traditional religions are either out of business or in pre-foreclosure. To date, threats of taxes hold ‘em under such tight control that rather than risk their tax exempt status they opted for silence and loss of souls. Given that all genuine religions mostly survive on private donations, there is no reason to deny them tax-exempt status even if they reclaim their God-given authority & mandate to preach & protect their lost sheep in private & in public. After all, current application of Church & State Separation is not only illogical & illegal but also not in the best interest of our society—in its present form, it’s for the greater good of a few who want protection & freedom to deny others their protection & freedom. No religious or secular scholar can deny that ANY traditional religion has the power to create greater private and public stability than an army of doctors, lawyers, therapists, politicians and law enforcement officers. Oftentimes, the choice between church or jail seems elementary to all except liberals. Since most religious leaders provide their services free of charge and since our society is in the deepest Crisis of modern times, it’s an atrocity not to opt for religious leadership in concert with advancements in medicine, psychology, law, business & government. But then, to be logical & liberal is not always a good fit. By now, every issue precious to traditional Republicans will be disproved by a mountain of evidence from liberal Republicans or Democrats and vice versa. Needless to say, only highly “intelligent” people can argue over value of dissemination or protection of truth & good versus deception & violations! Do we really want equal rights to equal lack of bias towards truth, responsibility and good?

FACT or MYTH … TRUTH—the Whole Truth & Nothing but the Truth—an Option or a Mandate?

1. Years ago, Jehovah’s Witnesses did not endorse President Bush—they don’t even vote!

2. Now, the Pope did not endorse Senator Barack Obama for President—Ms. Oprah Winfrey did!

Although Catholic publications promote Faithful Citizenship, candidates’ names or parties are not even mentioned—other religions are similarly restricted by laws of church-state separation. Naturally, it’s pointless to argue over the political power of a private “generic publication” compared to the most popular talk show on public television—although Ms. Oprah usually focuses on relationships, not politics, “Great & rapid changes in human opinions have been produced far less by the force of reasoning than by the authority of a name.” Within recent years, one word from Ms. Oprah is taken by many as gospel truth!

What about the gospel truth of Dr. Colleen Kelly Mast, Dr. Robin L. Smith, Dr. Phil or Mr. Tom Cruise. Given our “multiple truth” syndrome, should we add a new truth or religion to the mix—”In Godless, Coulter throws open the doors of the Church of Liberalism.” … “If a Martian landed in America and set out to determine the nation’s official state religion, he would have to conclude it is Liberalism, while Christianity and Judaism are prohibited by law.” … “Many Americans are outraged by liberal hostility to traditional religion. But as Ann Coulter reveals in this, her most explosive book yet, to focus solely on the Left’s attacks on Judeo-Christian tradition is to miss a larger point: liberalism is a religion—a godless one. And it is now entrenched as the state religion of this country. Though liberalism rejects the idea of God and reviles people of faith, it bears all the attributes of a religion.” As such, Separation of Church & State is forced upon traditional religions but separation from religious brainwashing by liberals is not even an option. To date, the “provably false legal theory of church-state separation” has nothing to do with justice and everything to do with abuse of power.

If God is the “Father of Truth” & the devil is the “Father of Lies,” what is the origin of our Lies at the Altar, home & society. It’s no lie that hostility to traditional religion, is hostility directed to the children, singles, mothers & fathers of mainstream America. Quite possibly, there is no greater pain, danger & damage to an individual or a society, than a parent who is being privately or publicly humiliated, silenced & brutalized in front of their own child—we kill two souls with one stone! When parents are rendered helpless, the ultimate price for all private abuses or most of the luminary fame & fortune is paid by our children. Judging by “internet statistics” & other data, Britney Spears is among the heroines, Brad Pitt is among the heroes, search for sexual gratification is constant while gratitude to God is rare, and last but not least, President Bush is not only wrong but often treated with irrational & vile hostility as in the BDS. As if, how does a 15-year-old child learn that ANY President of the United States is Stupid? Do our children arrive at their gospel truth with the help of their parents, friends, school or media? Equally as detrimental is the fact that most of our children have too few conservative role models in their personal environment & in the public forum!

Who’s Who? Who is incompetent & who’s out of touch with reality? All of us know that Liberal Democrats have been our Legendary Kings or Queens of TV & denial for years. By now, they’re powerful enough to morph Republicans into Liberals. Oddly, even Conservative Democrats cannot confirm or deny the truth: they’d end up in the same situation as Mr. Bernard Goldberg & CBS—he never had a sporting chance! “The liberals can understand everything but people who don’t understand them.”

If ABC, NBC & CBS & all other media were in the business of fair and balanced information, our lives and even politics would be quite different. Today’s “politics” are no longer limited to public regulations, economy and national security. As such, if the Republican party had maintained its status as the party of traditional American values, most Americans would be Republicans because of the indisputable truth or needs of every individual & family. Marriages or families would be more solid and parentals might actually enjoy honor & obedience from their children. Although the battles over messy rooms might remain questionable, at least morality would become clear. Even our religious hypocrisy might be different—we might actually allow God or Jesus to join us at school or the office, instead of leaving them “home alone.” Abandonment of God almost always translates to abandonment of people. The fact that most of our dreams are being derailed is elementary—one of the main reasons is a classic lack of support or empowerment for traditional lifestyles. Although people have been fighting over the damages & injustice for years, some “experts” claim there are “no victims, only volunteers.” If truth be told, victimization has actually escalated to the point of a Crisis mostly because laws & experts are its biggest enablers—then, there are those who are actually big fans & participants of dysfunction. Given our enslavement to faulty attitudes, laws & experts, most mainstream Americans gave up fighting City Hall a long time ago!

One can “Agree to Disagree” only if one is given equal empowerment. Currently, the cruel game of liberal monopoly is a democratic atrocity. Its cause & effect cycles corrupted political balance as well as the stability of private individuals & families—although the gap between conservatives & liberals continues to widen, peaceful coexistence in the public arena is possible but not within a family. As such, all of us deserve to get our free “get out of jail card.” We can “agree to disagree” or “change” only after traditional & modern philosophies are equally validated within our media. Currently, countless options are offered in theory but not in practice. Damages within our private, social & political realms are as blatant as the “lawful & awful” obstruction of traditional religions—by now, civil hypocrisy is very similar to moral schizophrenia. As if, adultery or parental “betray-all” is not much different than betrayal of public trust.

What is the real truth behind veiled lives, hidden pain & smiling faces of the “advantaged?” Since women’s & children’s love or need for men are elementary, truth about procreation & marriage is crucial not only to re-pairing our relationships but also to life itself. Sadly, a husband having two or more legal wives is an old hypocritical privilege enjoyed by adulterers, polygamists and even some “Politically Correct Catholics.” After a civil divorce, the Catholic husband takes a “new civil wife” while the abandoned wife remains his “religious wife” for life. Thanks to modern equality, Catholic & non-Catholic wives have been unleashing the same brutality upon their husbands & children. On the other hand, there are those who feel that a piece of paper will make their brutal betrayal honorable—as such, “Religiously Correct Catholics” deceive themselves to obtain a No-fault Divorce & a Decree of Nullity. Even though they opt for the same process where the Catholic wife or husband takes on a “new civil spouse,” because of growing abuses of church laws, adulterous spouses are usually given greater honor & empowerment than their victims. As such, it’s not a mystery which parent or religion will be honored by their children. The “advantage” of being abandoned creates the same trauma for women as for men. Although it is easier to prove “religious” violations, betrayal is painful to the religious & non-religious alike. Anyone who feels no pain is misinformed or already dysfunctional as verified by the statistics where 1 in 25 lack conscience. Because No-fault divorce continues to reward the guilty & punish the innocent, pain and statistics also continue to increase. Liberals applaud it, true conservatives fight & loathe it mostly because custody issues rob parents of their moral & parental authority. The worst part of divorce is not the divorce itself but fact that children are used as a shield to make adulterous parents look decent because majority of the laws are in the best interest of the child only on paper. Naturally, promiscuity, abortion, divorce & remarriage are all relatives! Consequently, too many of us no longer think of bad as bad, arrogance as arrogant, brutality as brutal, pain as pain!

Tragically, when it comes to marriage & stable family life for the “disadvantaged,” degradation of men, women & children is beyond pain & logic—to add to the distress, many are single mothers & most of their children are innocent victims of the “war in our own backyard,” home, heart & mind. Countless white “advantaged” men and women are spending a fortune in courts to buy their rights & protect their children—naturally, it’s a lost cause. The “disadvantaged” are lost even before they begin. Without discernment between right & wrong arrogant brutality will continue—without help from ABC, CBS, NBC, ABA, APA, AMA & others, avoidable cruelties will escalate. The way Dr. Phil, Ms. Oprah, Ms. O’Donnell, Ms. DeGeneres & Ms. Walters solve “the major problems in the country” is not always the same as traditional hosts, doctors, pastors & parents.

“If we continue to teach about tolerance & intolerance instead of good & evil, we will end up with tolerance of evil.” Our current social crisis transcends politics, religion, education, media, race or gender. No matter what the networks do within the next year or so, will not be enough to bring instant character, family or social reformation. Because our cultural brainwashing stems all the way from Washington right down to our suburban bullies and values, private & public elections are guaranteed to be flawed. It’s no surprise that almost everyone in America will feel insulted at the mere suggestion of being “brainwashed”—instead of treating the “whole human spirit within humanity itself,” our “experts” dispense temporary & separate band-aids as faulty as some of our laws. It’s tragic that some of our leaders have no desire to make the connection between “cultural brainwashing” and its devastation of private & public lives—on the other hand, leaders who wish to initiate needed changes are not allowed to do so. It will take decades to compensate for the damages & restore intellectual equilibrium, freedom & choice. As the hub of our information, the three major television networks (ABC, CBS & NBC) in concert with the three major empowerment networks (APA, ABA & AMA) are the only ones with enough power to equalize our society. They were able to achieve truth in advertising—likewise, truth of information is their & our mandate. Naturally, none of us are personally responsible for a conditioned con-fusion of all ages—nonetheless, truthful private & public empowerment is our inalienable necessity & a right.

The deck is stacked—further debates are pointless. All debates must give way to action for justice & empowerment. Leaders—as in politicians, journalists, experts or luminaries—who do not comprehend the need to resolve vital civil & religious issues at the federal and public levels, should not be leaders. Why vote “present,” pass the buck to the states or silence the people, especially when states have been nursing “failed policies” instead of wounded victims. Since victims of “No-fault” divorce may receive justice only because they live in New York and those living in Any Town, USA do not even qualify for justice, need for action at the federal level is not only obvious but also mandatory. Similarly, since many states & leaders favor legalization of same-sex marriages, only federal authority has enough power to regain stability, unity and protection. While crux of the Federal Marriage Amendment shares its roots with countless private & public issues, same-sex marriages are not the origin and as such, not the gravest danger to the institution of marriage & stability of American families. The unconstitutional nature of No-fault divorce laws has been demolishing our families since 1969 and continues to do so.

Had our astute leaders been wiser about their priorities and reformed No-fault divorce laws first, abortions, same-sex marriages, hate crimes, fatherlessness, motherlessness, lack of protection for children & others might be minimal. Unfortunately, because No-fault made Family Courts the legal clearing-house for distribution of lies, deception, injustice and misinformation, it also allowed dishonorable or malicious actions of abandoners, abusers or adulterous men & women to be given a legal seal of approval or praise. Because almost every divorce has one guilty and one innocent spouse,” No-Fault” made protection of truth or victimized spouses and children legally & humanly impossible. Once No-fault allowed dishonest cheaters and manipulators to be treated better than their victims in private and in public, by default, children and society could not distinguish between a divorced-guilty-adulterous-spouse and a divorced-innocent-victimized-spouse. By now, truth is rare—more and more dishonest, disloyal and at times, dangerous characters are welcomed in our homes, society and TV or smile all the way to the bank because No-fault silenced their victims into submission.

To date, most of us continue to be brainwashed to embrace “tolerance.” If that doesn’t do the job, we’re told “not to judge.” Use of such deceitful tactics created our Crisis and unfortunately, continues. After all, just as judges judge, every human being makes nonstop judgments regarding safety & choices—to judge or discern between bad or good thoughts, words or actions is part of our natural instincts & survival. Contrary to modern bunk, to judge another person’s behavior is NOT the same as judging that person’s soul. Similarly, to tolerate bad behavior makes no logical sense because every action comes with a natural reaction—as such, to tolerate lies or betrayal is to violate truth and faithfulness. While our intentions to embrace “all” are good & sincere, results have been disastrous. After years of tolerating evil, we find it difficult to tolerate truth. By now, when victims are given a rare opportunity to surface in public, they either get superficial empathy while the court of public opinion will treat many with such brutality & hostility that others dare not speak out. By now, no other perpetrator or criminal in our society has a better cover or blanket of security than a selfish, arrogant, lying & cheating abuser or criminal who violated his or her spouse & children—in the beginning they used to be our spouses, our relatives, our friends, co-workers, professionals, sports & entertainment stars. Considering that it was almost humanly impossible not to fall for popular lies, smiles and promises of elusive soulmates in search of “happiness,” many of us did the same. Needless to say, the greatest crime is not in betrayal or adultery but in lack of truth, remorse and reparations. All of us are destined to make mistakes and after sorrow, apologies & change, we’re entitled to forgiveness. 

Given that foster homes as well as nursing homes, mental health institutions and jails are filled with helpless victims, reforms in No-fault divorce & custody laws must have the same priority as our economy, national security and health care. Because spouses & children in physical or emotional danger are already able to obtain a legal separation, initial reforms should focus more on change in attitudes than change in laws. After all, a “faithful” separation is a better & safer solution for spouses as well as children—along with needed physical protection, a “faithful” separation does not violate the marriage and offers hope of reconciliation. Although separations have always been available, they are rarely used mostly due to desperation or misinformation—due to years of cultural brainwashing as to the “benefits” of divorce, a divorce will often encourage or push spouses towards infidelity, jealousy, anger and remarriage. Continual divorce cycles are not only damaging to every child, man and woman but also to our entire society. It is not necessary to ask for a “second opinion,” or to listen to more lies of the perpetrators nor to seek out victims to confirm their brutal reality—lack of Reform of No-fault laws is proof of perpetual direct or indirect confusion in the heart of every person in America. As such, most “political or professional experts” have been wrong all along—further silence or lack of resolution would be similar to assisting others to commit legally enforced spiritual-mass-suicide.

While almost every divorce has 1 guilty & 1 innocent spouse and children, ALL are victims. After almost 40 years of social & legal brainwashing, not one professional, victim or adulterous man or woman should be held personally responsible for our Society’s Crisis. A saint would have a hard time to sift through 24/7 of con-fused visual & audio imprints on private souls and families as well as our entire society. With truth and empowerment having been short circuited years ago, almost every adult encountered technical difficulties while most of our children never even had a chance to know or learn about truth, mutual love or responsibility and stable traditional families. Since there are relatively few survivors, very few maintain the right to point fingers. Most of us have to point fingers at ourselves and redirect our course towards truth, honesty, apologies, reparations, regret, forgiveness and true love.

Contrary to modern bunk, marriage is by far the optimal & ultimate of all relationships—In fact, unless one opts for a less popular but equally honorable lifestyle of a celibate humanitarian, there are no other honorable options. Had we not messed with Mother Nature, life’s choices would remain obvious & simple—needless to say, because we’ve changed natural cycles of birth & death, we created “other” alternative lifestyles which we deceive ourselves & enjoy as “good for us”—years of trials, errors & hardships have already proven all of us to be wrong & wronged.

To think of marriage as a lifetime prison sentence without the possibility of parole might make a cute joke but is very far from its reality. Although truth about marriage cannot be denied, almost all of us will dispute it. Nonetheless, “children” are the ultimate and indisputable proof of marital bliss as well as the need for a lifetime of fidelity & responsibility. As such, relationships where people cohabitate, divorce, live in a domestic partnership or marry without planning to have children are WRONG because they violate natural human order, needs and love.

Taking into account the failure of modern psychology & coaches, perhaps watching Groundhog Day should become part of every political, professional, sport & entertainment contract—to guard against new double-crosses and ensure that ALL leaders stay in touch with reality, family, society and honesty, perhaps it should be a bipartisan double feature—after all, what could change our leaders’ tune and make them sing like a canary better than The Sound of Music. Given that President Bush and Senators Obama and McCain have already proven their dancing skills, making a song & dance about life should be easy!

A wise person has said that America is like an eagle, needing “both wings to fly”—to heal the wounded soul of America, power of the right & the left wing must shift to put “people” first. Needless to say, NOTHING & NO ONE CAN KEEP AMERICA DOWN. As such, all of us should look forward to enjoying our birthrights under the Democratic & Republican wings of honorable & bold champions of people and America–the beautiful home of our dreams & destiny: to enjoy God’s shelter or to shine like the son—”Say to the Lord, ‘My refuge and my fortress, my God in whom I trust’” and, from beginning to end, “He will raise you up on eagle’s wings.”  Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”

“Fireproof” Your Love … Divorce from Mental and Physical Adultery

Host:  Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement … Love of My Life 

Fireproof … “Never Leave Your Partner Behind” 

One Picture is Worth a Thousand Words … Unfortunately, until Fireproof comes out on September 26, 2008, we’ll have to settle for 1,000 words.

Life matters seem as timeless as true love.  Pilate:  What is Truth?  Haddaway:  What is Love?  A Night at the Roxbury or the honor code of a chivalrous cavalry?  Does True Love exist or does it only happen in the movies?  Tough questions about the meaning of life are already answered in our hearts.  For validation, one might ponder upon Making Choices and Professor Kreeft’s “pearl of great price.”  While Professor Kreeft’s approach is somewhat different than Mr. Cosby’s “call outs” on personal accountability, sex, drugs, gangs, language or rap, the crux of their causes bears many similarities.  According to Professor Kreeft, “Music is like images:  it communicates more powerfully than words … In fact, the tradition says that in music or by music the worlds were created … I suspect that if Jesus were teaching today he would produce great movies and TV shows.  His parables were really little mental movies.  They were not only pictures, but moving pictures.”  Needless to say, when it comes to “moving pictures,” it’s easy to treasure such classics as The Ten Commandments, Quo Vadis and The Passion of the Christ.  Yet, even though some of our other treasures are rare and at times, questionable, they seem to be in a class all of their own:  Inherit the Wind, A Man for All Seasons, The Alamo, Remember the Titans, Mr. Holland’s Opus, Ghost, Awakenings, Angles in the Outfield, City of Angels, What Dreams May Come, Patch Adams, The Chronicles of Narnia, Bella, Walt Disney’s Enchanted and Ben Stein’s Expelled … With movies and all media having such a powerful impact on our culture, perhaps we need the magical MO of Bill Murray’s Groundhog Day to awake traditional practical preaching on true love, fidelity, beauty, swans, left or right, good or bad, priceless and worthless, wise or educated, pearls and swine or all other perils in life.  Ya think?       

Needless to say, because True Love is Eternal, so is our quest for True Love, even at the movies.  Fireproof promises to be yet another movie about True Love—yet, if the ending does justice to the Hope presented by the movie, Fireproof might be one of the most SPECIAL movies of our times.  After all, the crux of the movie is right on target with the #1 Enemy & Danger to all children, singles, marriages and elders—adulteration of our souls and nation through faulty media trends & no-fault divorce or custody laws.  To date, our enslavement is as obvious as the con-fusion created by faulty optics, sound bites and laws.  Warning & Disclaimer:  Although “Adultery” will be mentioned ad nauseam, its repetition will not be as frequent as the questionable mention of KKK in Bowfinger where proof of the real con is not in the movie but in Hollywood’s way of life.  

THE LAW

One need not be a religious, psychological or legal scholar to comprehend God’s Commandment against Adultery.  By now, too many of us already experienced the pain and damages from adultery in our own lives or in the lives of our relatives and society.  With mental adultery being a precursor to physical adultery, facts of life confirm Jesus’ laws and warnings about adultery.  

Teaching about Adultery: … “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Mt. 5:27-28

Sayings about Divorce: … “Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and the one who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.” Lk 16:18

A Woman Caught in Adultery: … “’Let the one among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.’  Again he bent down and wrote on the ground. And in response, they went away one by one, beginning with the elders.  So he was left alone with the woman before him.  Then Jesus straightened up and said to her, ‘Woman, where are they?  Has no one condemned you?’  She replied, ‘No one, sir.’  Then Jesus said, ‘Neither do I condemn you.  Go, [and] from now on do not sin any more.’” Jn 8:7-11

Those who are hard of hearing or heart and mind, will usually do the opposite—they will ”go, [and] continue to sin.”  For those situations, Jesus also has a solution.  Jesus: A Cause of Division: ”Do not think that I have come to bring peace upon the earth.  I have come to bring not peace but the sword.  For I have come to set a man ‘against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law-against her mother-in-law; and one’s enemies will be those of his household.’” Mt 10:34-36 

THE PROBLEM 

Moral Disorders (Excerpts from 1 Cor 5) … “But I now write to you not to associate with anyone named a brother, if he is immoral, greedy, an idolater, a slanderer, a drunkard, or a robber, not even to each with such a person … ‘Purge the evil person from your midst.’”  Regrettably, instead of “purging” toxic behaviors, our laws and attitudes enable and empower addictions, abuse, abandonment and adultery.   Ever since civil and religious laws such as No-fault, gets and declarations of nullity gave empowerment to adulterous geeks, “The strong do as they can … The weak must suffer.”  According to Rabbi Shuley Boteach, cheating dishonors the cheater & the spouse.  Some men cheat because “They can-so they do.  And they have no morals, religious beliefs, or sense of commitment to stop them.”  As for women, “they wouldn’t take someone’s watch or kidnap their children, but they believe it’s socially acceptable to steal another woman’s husband … In addition to being immoral and deeply hurtful to one’s spouse, cheating deprives a husband of the greatest erotic pleasure that marriage has to offer.” 

To date, lack of private, religious, professional and public admonition of adultery prevents help and creates graver risks for perpetrators as well as for the victims.  To make matters worse, protection for our children and separation from caustic parents, mates, leaders or laws is usually not an option mostly because majority of states eliminated protective laws of fault-based divorce and allowed hostile social trends to mute and damage conservative ideologies within all vital aspects of our society.  As Judeo-Christian values continue to be overruled by modern laws, psychology & media, ethical empowerment continues to be a rare commodity.  Oddly, even though most traditionalists have already addressed the hatred and degradation of traditional values and people in the public forum, most continue to ignore such damages and their devastation in private homes—yet, to be betrayed, abused or abandoned by a “loved one” is much more heinous and painful than to be betrayed or violated by a friend or a stranger.  As such, why would most leaders give the “evil twin” the silent treatment and treat the private side of our society’s family Crisis as the proverbial third rail?    

The answer is obvious, tragic and frightening.  While experts tend to focus and fault our society’s family Crisis on poor marital preparation or parenting, accidentally on purpose they omit culpability of their laws, trends and abuses.  After all, when children are groomed into dysfunctional behaviors from childhood, even the best marriage courses will fail to correct years of toxic ideas or habits, especially when toxic behaviors continue to be validated in private and in public.  Likewise, even though Christie Brinkley was fortunate to validate her integrity, receive sole custody of her children and a just financial settlement, majority of divorced people will not.  As such, any spouse attempting to help their mate or children is destined to fail because shared custody forces parents to care for their children without needed integrity or authority and in time, even the best of parents become negligent while children have to settle for physical protection without vital spiritual guidance for their entire lives.  To add insult to injury, most causes of relationship problems and No-fault divorces are created by No-fault laws.  After all, both spouses were good enough, smart enough, attractive enough and important enough to marry in the first place.  Most of us intended to stay married for life.  What has changed?  Are scorned, victimized divorced parents acting ridiculous or are they being forced to obey unjust and ridiculous laws which leave them in helpless agony?  If people could get justice in the privacy of Family Courts, why would countless victims have to beg for justice from shows like Oprah, Maury, Springer, Dr. Phil, the Internet, or through a grassroots movement reminiscent of the Underground Railroad?  Why are millions being ignored or overruled by relatively few luminaries or mocked, brutalized, silenced and rendered helpless by the con-fused court of public opinion?  While Catholics are beginning to have better media exposure than in the past, public figures like Mr. O’Reilly, Ms. Ingraham and Mr. Hannity mostly focus on political issues while catholic print media, internet, radio and television networks like EWTN mostly focus on religious issues.  Consequently, even though all of the above programming serves an important role in our society, none of them address our society’s family Crisis in its entirety.  As such, instead of helping, resultant disconnection caused by differing agendas actually fuels the wildfires of misinformation, con-fusion, helplessness and damages to individuals, families, faith and society.  If a giant like the Catholic faith is falling, risk to other traditional religions and followers is even graver.      

Needless to say, cultural differences between Amish, Muslim or Catholic faiths are quite obvious.  Likewise, the nature of forced marriages is much different than voluntary marriages.  Nonetheless, considering that reconciliation or faithful separation would be more beneficial to all troubled marriages, why are so many spouses big fans of serial divorces and remarriages.  Even countless Catholics seem to falsify or skip decrees of nullity and opt for alternative lifestyles or remarriage.  “To those who rationalize attendance at the ceremony or reception by saying that this does not mean approval of the adulterous relationship, or that they have expressed their disapproval verbally, we remind them that actions speak louder than words.  How seriously will the couple take the verbal expression of concern when parents or friends are physically present at the wedding?” … “It would be wrong to cooperate in the evil act of adultery that will begin on the invalidly married couple’s wedding night by attending the attempted marriage or the reception. And it would be wrong to let such a couple stay overnight in one’s home” … ”Peace in the family at the expense of following the Gospel is a false peace, one that will never compel the couple to come to grips with the danger of losing their eternal salvation.  Our Lord spoke out against this kind of false peace.” – Catholic Replies, James J. Drummey.  Yet, unless one has the cooperation and love of their mate, laws or trends guarantee that experts will force most of us to ”Peace at Any Price.”  By now, almost all of us have been there and done that!   

THE RESOLUTION

God’s laws are clear & simple … Tragically, most civil and religious laws are as clear as mud.  History and differences between all religions are elementary—by their nature, the Catholic Faith is different from Evangelical, Protestant, Baptist, Jewish and all other faiths.  Nonetheless, even though religious practices will differ and clash, daily practical applications of one’s faith should not.  In fact, Fireproof should prove that basic individual and family needs are one and the same regardless of gender, race, age, status or religious orientation.  As such, lack of consensus on religion-specific ideologies is understandable.  However, lack of consensus from religious leaders and followers on the Commandment against Adultery is irrational and dangerous as hell—most religions have their own set of laws regarding marriage and divorce:  Catholics do not recognize adultery as a valid reason for divorce while others might consider adultery as the major or only valid reason for a divorce.  Unfortunately, because there are grave differences between decrees of nullity issued by the American Catholic Church and Rome, the unconstitutional nature of No-fault divorce enslaves most Catholic families into double-jeopardy.  Consequently, the only means of protecting marriages and children is through addressing the main culprit and point of agreement—ADULTERY.  Adultery is a mortal wound or sin within all traditional religions as well as a grave violation of cultural American values.  Because of our ideologies and proven personal experiences with the vile roots and fruits of adultery, NONE of us have the right to marginalize or invalidate the existence, violations, agony or damages caused by adultery.  Ignoring the major cause of divorces creates endless cycles of abuse as well as inability to protect individuals and families from other violations which are less evident but almost as painful and dangerous.  

After all, what comes first:  the cart or the horse?  “You shall not commit adultery,” comes with an automatic law, order and guarantee that if you do not commit adultery, ”You shall not divorce.”  To argue over laws of separation or divorce without addressing adultery is a waste of human resources and lives.  With all divorces being directly or indirectly rooted within cycles of emotional or mental and physical adultery, there is NO excuse for religious, psychological or legal liberal approval or indifference to adultery.  The heinous nature of adultery is validated within top 10 laws issued by God and it is also verified by the pain and damages within our own spiritual & physical reality.  As such, with religious, emotional, intellectual or physical adultery being the main cause of most divorces, by default of no-fault laws, it is also the main cause of divorce from God for victims and perpetrators.  

Even though countless separated or divorced spouses manage to remain faithful to God and their family, such injustice or suffering is not only inconsolable & unconscionable but also avoidable and therefore, negligent.  With violated adults being deprived of justice, protection of one’s child is not even an option.  In a country where religious & civil freedom is our right, having the right to remain silent and violated is an abomination.  Civil and religious laws are clear:  “Traditional morality forbids cooperating with the evil act of another.”  Unfortunately, shared child custody laws mandate the opposite—violated parents and children must cooperate, enjoy and facilitate with felicity most of the obscenity or grooming from the adulterous spouses as well as pay for all the damages for the rest of their lives.  Social, legal and psychological support for shared custody has created an unprecedented catastrophe for all victims of divorce—ignoring emotional abuse or adultery not only invalidates the suffering of the victims but also empowers the perpetrators to degrade innocent spouses as well as to manipulate their children and the entire “system.”  As such, violated parents are treated with hostility by the perpetrator, family members, friends, coworkers, lawyers, therapists, judges and the court of public opinion.  While all atrocities are highly detrimental, to be innocent yet vilified or mocked in front of one’s child, or in time, to be scorned by one’s own child is a travesty unlike any other—with children and families being the ultimate essence of life, constant rejection from loved ones becomes inconsolable and makes all other endeavors meaningless.

“Hypocrisy is only dangerous when forced upon others without their knowledge or consent.”  Naturally, there is a big difference between misinformation and willful ignorance or enabling of the perpetrators.  As such, only hypocrites, bigots and most of all, sociopaths are highly dangerous.    With tomorrow being promised to no one and with endless con-fusion inflicted upon us daily, resolution of our Crisis is a matter of life and death.  Given proper empowerment, honest religious or non-religious lifestyles revolve around self-discipline and love—contrary to modern bunk about hostile and intolerant traditionalists, hurtful thoughts rarely linger while cruel or violent actions are not an option.  For most conservatives, even self-defense is often sacrificed to help or protect others.  As such, hurting of animals would never be in character much less hurting or betraying one’s “loved ones.”  Although occasional bitterness, justified anger and con-fusion are part of everyone’s life, conflict resolutions may vary—some Catholics’ MO are rounds on their Rosaries while others rely on personalized prayers, psalms, music, psychology or even a mental hug with their child, spouse, parent or friend. 

If truth be told, mere desire to obey God’s Commandments and Constitution might create a safer, saner or cleaner environment than all current laws in the world.  With all that being said, separation of church and state is a figment of someone’s imagination and misinterpretation.  With God being at the foundation of every prayer, decision and action in one’s life, unless one desires to be a moral-schizophrenic, it is humanly impossible to separate God from private and public lives.  Even if such a separation was possible, a country founded upon Judeo-Christian ideologies, should discourage such actions instead of incorporating them into laws.  As such, our current reality is a sad but true confirmation that private or public separation from good or God is an absurdity as well as an impossibility.  Nonetheless, private separation within a dysfunctional relationship or marriage is at times a vital necessity—to protect all children and spouses at risk, a “faithful” separation is a must while a divorce is nothing more than what it was from the beginning—an excuse or law for “hardened hearts” and malicious or adulterous abandonment of one’s responsibility, family and God for the sole purpose of adulteration or remarriage. 

Because a husband and wife create the optimal environment for each other and for creation of life, marriage is for life.  “A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives.  But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whomever she wishes, provided that it be in the Lord.  She is more blessed, though, in my opinion, if she remains as she is, and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.”  1 Cor 7:39-40.  Needless to say, those men and women who wish to remain single for life, also have that option:  “I should like you to be free of anxieties.  An unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord.  But a married man is anxious about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and he is divided.” 1 Cor 7:32-34   

“Great & rapid changes in human opinions have been produced far less by the force of reasoning than by the authority of a name.”  No religious or secular scholar can deny that public TV, radio, print media and the “experts” of the AMA, ABA and APA have evolved into Central Intelligence Agencies for our society.  As such, with power comes an even greater responsibility.  If truth be told, this is an offer they can’t refuse!  After all, when our children needed encouragement to expand their horizons, the National Library Association was wise enough to join forces with the producers of Happy Days.  A few words from da Fonz & registration for library cards in America went up 500%.  Naturally, we’re talking of a situation where only a few lines, from one man on one show, brought a phenomenal 500% inspiration & help for all our children.  If our leaders were into US instead of dysfunction or their own agendas, private & social corruption would have been over years ago!  Tragically, the results are in.  “How happy are today’s ‘liberated’ people?”  According to Professor Kreeft, “The best measure is the suicide rate.  Since the 1950′s, the suicide rate among teenagers has gone up 500%.”  Have people and their needs changed or has our private and social environment changed?  One would think that those “experts” or “illluminaries” still clinging to their smoking gun or their ”blame, shame and scam the victims game,” could benefit from a reality check so all their victims finally have someone looking out for them!  After all, just as a coin has two sides, whether we trust in God or whether we trust in the greater common good, a “Wise and Contrite Heart” is the only pill that will cure adultery and all other ills of our society.  ”Hate the Sin and Not the Sinner - Mohandas K. Gandhi.”  Quite obviously, none of our leaders have a valid excuse for hate crimes, con-fusion or continued adulteration of our souls and nation.      

What will it take to end our Crisis?  “The dissenter is every human being at those moments of his life when he resigns momentarily from the herd & thinks for himself.”  Hopefully, with Fireproof as a catalyst for a long awaited intervention it can also become a sparkle for our long overdue progress. 

“The deepest principle of Human Nature is the craving to be appreciated.”  From a religious standpoint, our first priority should be Adoration of God, Jesus or the Holy Trinity and Family.  Our secular priority applies to the same principle: “Honor Your Father and Your Mother.”  Naturally, parental responsibilities towards children speak for themselves:  “Fathers, do not provoke your children in anger, but bring them up with the training and instruction of the Lord.” Eph 6:4 … As such, whether Fireproof  will be viewed as a Catholic Converter or an ignition key to our Social Renaissance, if True Love does triumph at the end of the movie (as it should), incurable romantics might find Fireproof and True Love to be a “match made in heaven.” … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”  

John Stossel—20/20—Sex in America: Truth, Myths, Lies, or Downright Stupidity?

 Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement: … Love of My Life

On a superficial level, Mr. Stossel’s 7-18-08 report on attitudes and laws governing sex appears to be fair and balanced.  Yet, underneath it all, the truth is obvious—the report is a downright clash between “intelligent design” and “sexual intelligence.”  The outcome is tragic:  since not all is fair in war and not all is fair in love, not all is fair in America’s war on sex—physical and intellectual con-fusion interlaced within the inseparable nature of private and public environment has been disastrous.

Should sex be a private matter?  Does our sex-saturated media “corrupt the minds of children and lead to sexually deviant behavior?”   What is the appropriate age for self-abuse and what constitutes fairness in mutual consensual violations between adults?  Can a vibrator be compared to a gun?  Can there be anything remotely honorable or civil about a civil divorce?  Is civil polygamy much different from Catholic polygamy, where a husband has one religious wife for life and one civil wife until he trades her in for a new model?  Is a wife’s adultery or serial divorces and remarriages more honorable and politically correct than polygamy?  What is the main difference between prostitution for money and family prostitution for “lust?”  Since No-fault divorce and custody laws have already created more victims than homosexual marriages, why are religious and secular leaders against homosexual marriages and parenting but not against adulterous marriages and parenting?  

And last but not least, the big I—Infidelity—Is monogamy a myth?  For the segment on monogamy and cheating, Mr. Stossel interviewed advice columnist, Mr. Steve Santagati probably because of his popularity:  “He’s all over TV these days. On ‘Oprah’ and the ‘Today’ show helping women understand men.”

“‘Bad Boys’ Who Cheat Santagati is 44 years old, single and said he never wants to get married or have kids.”  Obviously, not wanting to “get married or have kids,” is no longer the same as not wanting to have sex.  “A bad boy is a guy who’s unapologetically male, loves being naughty, and loves seducing women … His book, ‘The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate — and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top,’ is a best-seller.” … After all, “Sex is the most primal urge in every single one of us.”  Even though traditional views on the pleasures of sex are not much different, traditional lifestyles are.  “God Himself created the first man and woman.  Then, in order to people the earth, He (as it were), shared His creative powers with us.  He gave Adam and Eve the command “Increase and multiply.” (Gen.1:28)  In order to accomplish this, He implanted in them a sacred power which we call the sex passion.  This passion is not a dirty thing.  It is something holy.  It is something good in itself.”  “God placed a very great pleasure in the very organs by which children are conceived … Sex pleasure exists to attract husband and wife to mutual love and to the continuation of the life of the human race.” 

From a purely non-religious standpoint, the same truths are also confirmed by Mother Nature, logic and our own experiences.  By now, all of us know the thrill and the drill—most adults can discern between the surge of thrill derived from the newness of relationships compared to the surge of love derived from stable and loving relationships.  Consequently, for most adults, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.” 

Similarly, one need not be a religious or secular brainiac to realize that being a single fan of the bad boy and girl mentality, having lots of sex but not wanting to get married or have kids is not natural, good or intelligent.  All the consensual and nonconsensual sex or vibrators in the world will not create or replace an innate need which is more vital and important to us than sex:  love.  Since our need for love is much more powerful than sex, nothing can quench or fulfill our need for love but love.  Unfortunately, after years of toxic media trends and miscarriage of justice caused by No-fault divorce laws, most of us find “the pill” and all other moral ills of our society more natural than our own goods or the greater good of our society.  Consequently, given that damages from the “pill” are similar to damages from cigarettes or trans fats, NOW would be a good time for the AMA, APA, ABA, ABC, CBS & NBC to begin their public service announcements about damages to natural cycles of life, love, families and society.    

Needless to say, when it comes to “America’s War on Sex” and corruption of our children’s minds, one first needs to address corruption of our experts’ minds.  Dr. Klein’s statement speaks for itself:  “Family Research Council Caught Lying About Sexual Doomsday On Camera.”  Dr. Marty Klein is a sociologist, sex therapist and author of “America’s War on Sex.”   His comments are directed at Mr. Peter Sprigg, vice president for policy at the Family Research Council:  “The best part of the show was when host John Stossel confronted Sprigg with the simple, exciting facts of life: over the last ten years, while America has sizzled with internet porn and TV eroticism, the rates of rape, divorce, teen births, and premarital sex have gone DOWN. So how has ‘too much sex in America’ destroyed America? … ‘Right, Peter—people like you (and James Dobson and Laura Bush and the Abstinence Clearinghouse) should stop spreading lies about the social impacts of sexual expression and sexual repression until they have some ‘real studies.’ Until then, stop ‘coarsening our culture’ with your fear tactics, your fund-raising pitches predicting the end of civilization, and your phony support of women and children accompanied by the repression of sex education, contraception, and sexual health care.”

Dr. Klein’s views seem quite popular.  “Marty Klein shows exactly how abstinence-only programs are hurting American kids.  This great new book [America's War on Sex], is a must read for everyone who cares about healthy sexuality.  Sue Johanson, Host of “Talk Sex with Sue Johanson.”   One would think views of Mr. O’Reilly or Ms. Laura Ingraham might be quite different—unfortunately, because most of today’s leaders focus on the political aspects of “Culture Wars,” fair and balanced resolution of our society’s con-fusion continues to be AWOL.  As such, even though whims and trends have temporarily shifted [probably thanks to people like Mr. Sprigg and a legion of others], our society’s family Crisis not only remains a Cat-5 but also one of our nation’s Top Secrets!  To secular progressives, such trends are a blessing—to traditionalists, they’re pure hell! 

Truth, Myths, Lies or Downright Stupidity.  It’s odd.  The possibilities offered by a show like 20/20 to people like Mr. Stossel and Ms. Elizabeth Vargas are as endless as the power of other celebs on ABC, CBS, NBC, FNN, EWTN or COURT and others.  With Mr. Stossel being a self-proclaimed libertarian, will he be the one to liberate our society from enslavement to years of social hypocrisy and damages?  After all, Mr. Stossel has already done an excellent job on all other issues.  One would think that removing the gag order on truth should be in the best interest of Democrats, Republicans and Independents.  A good starting point would be secular-progressive’s song-and-dance-routine lie about conservatives not having the right to impose moral values on our society—-are secular progressives so special that only they have the right to impose their values on our society.  Accidentally on purpose, they have been imposing their immoral and amoral values on all of US for almost half a century—betrayal, con-fusion or exploitation of our youth, self-abuse, abortion, contraception, drugs, cohabitation, adultery, divorce, gets, annulments, remarriage, shared custody, single family homes, dysfunctional parenting, voluntary and enforced fatherlessness or motherlessness, homosexuality, pornography, swinging, degradation of natural human laws, beauty or body, clothing, music, language, arts or education and every other form of physical destruction stemming from 24/7 of private and public brainwashing or insults to our intelligence.  To date, secular progressives do not object to their own imposition of values on our society—they only object to traditionalists having the same rights and empowerment.

It’s quite possible that Mr. Stossel might be one of the privileged few within our society free of pain or able to enjoy his free will and the fruits of his labor:  ”I want government to leave people alone. I think people should be free to do anything they want — as long as they don’t hurt anyone else.”  Obviously, Mr. Stossel is in a similar situation as other leaders—they are either con-fused or misinformed about our government’s culpability in our Crisis—people are not being left alone but defenseless.  In fact, with Family Courts re-engineering individuals, families and society for almost 40 years along with constant damages from our media, people are being hurt, silenced and forced to move on.  Since some were legally forced to give up on principles while others were groomed into dysfunction, a general amnesty is a must.  Naturally, no one individual can be personally accountable for a social Crisis.  Nonetheless, NOW it is as important as ever to end all of our divorces from our own good, each other or for some, God.  No religious or secular “expert” can deny the truth and damages from direct, indirect or enabled abuse of self or abuse of others—with all that being sad and against our innate needs, experience, logic or religion dictate that all of us are almost guaranteed to change before our final swan song—”To cheat one’s self out of love is the greatest deception of which there is NO reparation in either time or eternity.” 

Myth:  “All’s fair in love and war.”

Truth:   “Although Klein does not provide an easy fix to the vexing problems posed by erotophobes, crusaders, the Christian-American Taliban, or religious terrorists,” Catholic-Halo does … Like the Holy Trinity, it’s a 3-pronged approach:  Truth in Private and Public Information, Restoration of Justice in Family Courts and Restoration of Private Empowerment! … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”  

Peter’s Baby, Christie’s Baby or Rosemary’s Baby

 Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement: … Love of My Life

All of us should be thankful for Ms. Brinkley’s courage to endure the worst crisis of her family’s life in public.  Needless to say, most divorces are too traumatic to bear even in private—as such, aside for her personal reasons, Ms. Brinkley’s decision to divorce in public gave all of us an opportunity to experience the reality of America’s #1 social crisis—years of individual and family damages caused by toxic divorce and media trends.

Despite the positive and just outcome for Ms. Brinkley and her children, death of one’s marriage and family through mental or physical adultery is a crisis unlike any other.  It’s very different from family traumas caused by physical abuse or even by natural death.  Quite possibly, the main reason Ms. Brinkley was able to receive partial justice is due to New York’s fault based divorce laws as opposed to everyone else in America having to suffer the injustice of Unconstitutional No-fault divorce laws.  To make things more unfair, probably even most violated spouses and children in New York State will rarely receive sole custody with final decision-making and mutually satisfactory visitation rights.  Naturally, the financial atrocity that is an innate part of every “average” divorce needs no introduction.  Not only our own families are feeling the financial devastation but so is our entire nation.  Then, if one happens to be a “conservative or a religious parent,” by default of No-fault injustice, the violations will be inhuman and the pain will be inconsolable.  Because only a faithful separation can give any type of protection, dignity and hope to one’s family, ANYONE initiating a divorce, causing a divorce or claiming that divorce is good for any family is either misinformed, indifferent or dysfunctional.  

Our injustice system is quite shocking.  How can family courts claim to serve justice when a family in New York might receive partial justice while a family in an identical situation and agony will never receive justice only because they live in Miami or any town USA outside of New York State.  How can family courts claim to serve justice when rich victims will suffer grave emotional damages while mainstream Americans are guaranteed to suffer emotionally and financially.  How can family courts claim to serve justice when only a privileged few are entitled to regain their integrity, reputation and authority while vast majority of victims never will.  The list of unjust personal, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, financial and physical damages is too long—victims are too many.  Only abandoning, dysfunctional or adulterous spouses claim to feel no pain and “enjoy” hurting, violating & divorcing from their “loved ones.”

By now, the main culprits are quite obvious—for years victims are being treated as vengeful, intolerant, hostile, angry, jealous, money-hungry morons while their adulterous mates are treated as good or at times, heroic fathers or mothers.   To add insult to injury, to date, family courts treat the 3rd most heinous crime in our society as an imaginary or irrelevant bellyache.  Even the “adulterous roots” in the Brinkley/Cook divorce were not fully exposed, explored and resolved.  For victims outside of New York State, the travesty & suffering are much worse—majority of violated parents in America have no choice or voice–for them, the betrayal and the divorce process bear many similarities to Rosemary’s Baby—adulterous spouses, relatives, witnesses, therapists, judges, lawyers & court evaluators have more power over victims and their children than those who should be entitled to justice, dignity, protection and financial stability–the victims.

Thank God Christie and her children had the money, power, popularity and support during their greatest hour of need.  According to Christie, “a mother’s greatest fear is somebody trying to take her children.”  Naturally, all the men violated over the years will confirm by their pain & experience that “a father’s greatest fear is somebody trying to take his children.”  Tragically, with most states considering adultery as ”sinless or no-fault,” adulterous parents have been emboldened by preferential, legal empowerment for almost 40 years—instead of receiving needed psychological or religious help, they receive a legal seal of approval to do almost anything they want with their spouses or children and our society.  How much longer must innocent children and parents suffer and when will enough be enough?  … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”  

Divorce Con–Mitigation … Open Letter to Doctors, Lawyers & Freudian Chiefs

 Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement … Love of My Life

“To cheat one’s self out of love is the greatest deception of which there is no reparation in either time or eternity.”  To cheat others is a double-cross.

ALL OF US ARE HURT by DIVORCE from our own good, each other or for some, God … With each family being a microcosm of our society, responsibility and accountability in private homes and society are interdependent and inseparable.  As such, con-fused spouses, parents, experts, politicians or luminaries are dangerous to innate laws of life and US—years of Illegal Abuse from the Firm Law of Dr. Rogue, Dr. Pill, Dr. Jock & Mr. Hide et al speak for themselves.  

To date, what is being done to our children, singles, marriages & elders is an atrocity!  HOW long must our CHILDREN suffer before leaders protect our FAMILIES from Negligent-Comatose-Overruled Experts, Laws or Society!  NO ONE has the right to brainwash & enslave an entire society … Consequently, no religious or secular scholar or expert can deny this Appeal.  There are only two options—SUPPORT IT or BEAT IT—if anyone has better solutions, the need for ACTION is URGENT.  Unconstitutional Abuse of Justice, Freedom, Information & Empowerment violates individuals as well as a society—it must end NOW! 

No religious or secular “expert” can deny that “the foundation of marriage is not simply a private decision since it creates a specifically ecclesial and social situation for the spouses, both individually and as a couple.”  Sadly, our Crisis is obvious—as corrupt media demolishes our families from the outside, faulty divorce & custody laws exterminate our families from the inside.  Many ”experts” use our Crisis to get rich or famous—tragically, even honest leaders who have the power to initiate change TODAY are misinformed or overruled while others procrastinate!  Since our laws, leaders or spouses won’t honor or protect US & our children, WHO will?

Who’s Who in America?  Who is a money-hungry, egotistical exploiter & Who is the victim?  When it comes to authoritative truth, laws & leaders, most traditionalists have NO voice or choice!  Our children have been at risk for years because faulty laws, trends or “experts” restrict or prohibit most qualified parents from protecting & nurturing their own children.  Who is our judge, jury & executioner?  Mr. O’Reilly believes that secular progressives don’t want judgments on behaviors & urges us to “start making judgments.”  On the other hand, Ms. Oprah’s gospel is different—she is on a quest for a “world without judgment.”  Although “the results are in,” most of US are still forced to live in agony & hypocrisy instead of a democracy.  When it comes to civil or religious rights, most children, singles, parents or elders only have 2 choices: swim with the sharks OR drown in tears, denigration or loneliness.

Abuse of Power & People … When will the Media report on the abuse of power by the Media?  When will the APA end their mind-boggling blunders on contraception, abortion, homosexuality, cohabitation, adultery or other assaults on our faith & insults to our intelligence?  When will the ABA end violations of civil & religious rights or the injustice within corrupt divorce mills, DCFS & others?  When will the AMA disclose the truth about health damages from negligent spiritual traumas & perpetual emotional distress inflicted upon victimized children & parents?  When will our Political or Business Moguls stop enabling & enriching toxic bullies, spouses, social workers, lawyers, judges, doctors, therapists, police officers, scholars, celebs & other “colleagues.”  Sadly, even most religious laws or leaders cooperate with spiritual abuse, abandonment, adultery, divorces, gets, annulments or remarriages but neglect PROTECTION, JUSTICE & EMPOWERMENT for violated children or spouses! 

Since 1969 & NOW, the most vital aspect of our private lives & the foundation of our society—the family—cannot be protected.  Intellectual abuse is very much like carbon monoxide—it’s tasteless & it’s a silent killer of the soul.  Because it’s even toxic for those who guide & protect us, damages at top levels have been the most lethal—from Washington to our homes, hearts & minds.  “Let the people think they govern, and they will be governed.”  Given its magnitude, why isn’t our society’s family Crisis among major issues for all Politicians?  The answer is simple—for some, votes & power are more important than US.  For others, due to con-fusion of religious & non-religious voters, to speak unadulterated truth about our Crisis might be political suicide.  Yet, for most of us–until leaders address our society’s Crisis–truth , justice, integrity, logic & loving fruits of our labor are not in our cards.

All of us are innocent because NO ONE individual is powerful enough to destroy a powerhouse such as a natural family structure or a society.  Yet, the Decks have been Stacked—Trump must be Trumped!  Having to pay emotionally or financially for the rest of our lives for years of social negligence is illegal.  Since all of us are entitled to civil & religious rights TODAY, how much longer should we allow brutal, unjust, avoidable & illegal victimization to continue?  It’s already the 21st century!  It’s time for a REAL state of the union address & to ensure “that this nation, under God, shall have new birth of freedom — and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from earth.”  Since private individuals are being violated & ignored for years, NOW ONLY professionals or celebs have enough clout to initiate REAL CHANGE!

Oftentimes, religious leaders or professionals like to take their time—What say YOU, Christian Jewel, about all the helpless parents and their children who will be violated JUST today?  What say YOU, Mr. Expert or Ms. Celeb, about lack of protection for all religions and the inconsolable agony of all the victims—”Yesterday,” last year or decades ago.  Because ethics will often preclude self-defense, without legal, social or religious support, most are forced to move on and suffer in silence.  Some have already died without ever being exonerated.  How much longer should we wait and how many more fresh victims must be sacrificed to our two-headed monster before hearts and minds begin to open to truth and justice. 

Adulteration of our nation—our enslavement or corruption is a recycled and self-fulfilled prophecy—the truth is self-evident:  We have engineered a society to fit sinful or toxic lifestyles—as we corrupt laws on demand, we are forced to obey sincere & con-fused experts who are obligated to create & obey religious or civil laws.  As such, instead of changing faulty laws, we change people.  Those who object to the injustice are treated as hostile, jealous, angry, vengeful or intolerant imbeciles.  By default, as we ignore the pain & cries for help from victims, we allow them to be violated, intimidated, humiliated, denigrated and manipulated into submission.  Oddly, even though the helplessness and agony of the victims have always been obvious and inconsolable, “experts” treat it as a mere bellyache and force them to move on.  To date, most victims only have the right to remain silent and to bleed, beg, bend, bow, blend or blog to death.  WHY?  Individual reasons are as deep and intricate as each person.  Yet, the underlying causes stem from “experts” who claim, “There are no victims, only volunteers.”  WHO needs to get in touch with reality?  Wives, husbands and children do not volunteer to be abused, abandoned or adulterated by their “loved ones.”  50 years ago adultery was a sin and an abomination serious enough for God to warn us about it in the Ten Commandments.  Because “some experts” changed God’s laws and nature, we are being conditioned to believe that mental or physical adultery is sinless—In fact, most of us have been brainwashed to believe that adultery is love.  Consequently, most women and men are “in love” as they hurt, cheat, manipulate and seduce spouses away from their marriages, children or God.  With “experts” enabling morally ill perpetrators and ignoring mortally wounded victims, none of US should be surprised that after murder and physical abuse, betrayal or violation of our “loved ones,” is the 3rd most heinous, dangerous, enjoyable and popular crime in America.

“Hypocrisy is only dangerous when forced upon others without their knowledge or consent.”  As such, the same “vigor & rigor” that defined marriage as a union between one man & one woman must NOW be applied to remedy a graver danger—personal & social damages from faulty No-fault divorce laws & toxic media.  If the APA, ABA & AMA do not initiate truth in information & reparations through traditional talk-shows on “ABC, CBS, NBC & all major Media” because they are “unreachable,” they can be reached by private, religious or public pros & organizations through letters, articles, radio & TV—campaigns must address internal & external violations within major religions and within our society.

“We must not confuse dissent with disloyalty.”  By now, the need for a resolution is Urgent.  Turning the other cheek is not the same as turning one’s back to the victim—to wait 1 hour is to add countless victims to the list.  To reverse toxic attitudes, trends & laws, there are only 3 options—Initiate Unrelenting Pressure & Public Campaigns for: 1) A Congressional Investigation, 2) Voluntary Integration of Truth in Information within ALL Public Media, or 3) A Class Action Lawsuit.  Given that our Crisis originated from lack of protection for children, NO ONE has the right to deny this Appeal because it is the ONLY way to initiate protection for one’s CHILD NOW and long-term, for ALL of US … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”  

Oil on the Wounds: A Response to the Ills of Abortion and Divorce

 Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement: … Love of My Life

Truth about basic facts of life is universal.  Similarly, the bond between God, individual, family and social lives is as universal as it is interdependent and inescapable.  Consequently, it would seem that from a purely personal and practical standpoint, most of our lives will revolve around love and money.  When it comes to love, words of Pope Benedict seem to be rich in wisdom and value:  Address of His Holiness Benedict the XVI

[The family, founded on marriage, is the "patrimony of humanity", a fundamental social institution; it is the vital cell and pillar of society and this concerns believers and non-believers alike. It is a reality that all States must hold in the highest regard because, as John Paul II liked to repeat, "the future of humanity passes by way of the family" (Familiaris Consortio, n. 86).]

Unfortunately, because of private and public roadblocks within our society, most individual and family relationships have been in Crisis for years.  When civil laws are in conflict with natural or God’s laws, God’s laws should prevail—tragically, that hasn’t been the case for almost 40 years.  Because introduction of No-fault divorce laws eliminated the main source of individual and family protection, direct and indirect damages have been inflicted upon every member of our society.  The gravest suffering was inflicted upon violated spouses and children:

Excerpts from Familiaris Consortio:

[d) Separated or Divorced Persons Who Have Not Remarried

83. Various reasons can unfortunately lead to the often irreparable breakdown of valid marriages. These include mutual lack of understanding and the inability to enter into interpersonal relationships. Obviously, separation must be considered as a last resort, after all other reasonable attempts at reconciliation have proved vain.

Loneliness and other difficulties are often the lot of separated spouses, especially when they are the innocent parties. The ecclesial community must support such people more than ever. It must give them much respect, solidarity, understanding and practical help, so that they can preserve their fidelity even in their difficult situation; and it must help them to cultivate the need to forgive which is inherent in Christian love, and to be ready perhaps to return to their former married life.

The situation is similar for people who have undergone divorce, but, being well aware that the valid marriage bond is indissoluble, refrain from becoming involved in a new union and devote themselves solely to carrying out their family duties and the responsibilities of Christian life. In such cases their example of fidelity and Christian consistency takes on particular value as a witness before the world and the Church. Here it is even more necessary for the Church to offer continual love and assistance, without there being any obstacle to admission to the sacraments.

e) Divorced Persons Who Have Remarried

84. Daily experience unfortunately shows that people who have obtained a divorce usually intend to enter into a new union, obviously not with a Catholic religious ceremony. Since this is an evil that, like the others, is affecting more and more Catholics as well, the problem must be faced with resolution and without delay. The Synod Fathers studied it expressly. The Church, which was set up to lead to salvation all people and especially the baptized, cannot abandon to their own devices those who have been previously bound by sacramental marriage and who have attempted a second marriage. The Church will therefore make untiring efforts to put at their disposal her means of salvation.

Pastors must know that, for the sake of truth, they are obliged to exercise careful discernment of situations. There is in fact a difference between those who have sincerely tried to save their first marriage and have been unjustly abandoned, and those who through their own grave fault have destroyed a canonically valid marriage. Finally, there are those who have entered into a second union for the sake of the children's upbringing, and who are sometimes subjectively certain in conscience that their previous and irreparably destroyed marriage had never been valid.]

Unfortunately, even though Catholic leaders have been attempting to diminish damages to our families, faith and society, they have been fighting a futile battle because of the unconstitutional nature of No-fault divorce laws.  Consequently, as our Crisis continues, so do Catholic Interventions—Oil on the Wounds:

[I meet you with great joy on the occasion of the International Congress on "'Oil on the wounds': A response to the ills of abortion and divorce", promoted by the John Paul II Pontifical Institute for Studies on Marriage and Family in collaboration with the Knights of Columbus. I congratulate you on the topical and complex theme that has been the subject of your reflections in these days and in particular for the reference to the Good Samaritan (Lk 10: 25-37), which you chose as a key to approach the evils of abortion and divorce that bring so much suffering to the lives of individuals, families and society. Yes, the men and women of our day sometimes truly find themselves stripped and wounded on the wayside of the routes we take, often without anyone listening to their cry for help or attending to them to alleviate and heal their suffering. In the often purely ideological debate a sort of conspiracy of silence is created in their regard. Only by assuming an attitude of merciful love is it possible to approach in order to bring help and enable victims to pick themselves up and resume their journey through life.

In a cultural context marked by increasing individualism, hedonism and all too often also by a lack of solidarity and adequate social support, human freedom, as it faces life's difficulties, is prompted in its weakness to make decisions that conflict with the indissolubility of the matrimonial bond or with the respect due to human life from the moment of conception, while it is still protected in its mother's womb. Of course, divorce and abortion are decisions of a different kind, which are sometimes made in difficult and dramatic circumstances that are often traumatic and a source of deep suffering for those who make them. They also affect innocent victims: the infant just conceived and not yet born, children involved in the break-up of family ties. These decisions indelibly mark the lives of all those involved. The Church's ethical opinion with regard to divorce and procured abortion is unambivalent and known to all: these are grave sins which, to a different extent and taking into account the evaluation of subjective responsibility, harm the dignity of the human person, involve a profound injustice in human and social relations and offend God himself, Guarantor of the conjugal covenant and the Author of life. Yet the Church, after the example of her Divine Teacher, always has the people themselves before her, especially the weakest and most innocent who are victims of injustice and sin, and also those other men and women who, having perpetrated these acts, stained by sin and wounded within, are seeking peace and the chance to begin anew.

The Church's first duty is to approach these people with love and consideration, with caring and motherly attention, to proclaim the merciful closeness of God in Jesus Christ. Indeed, as the Fathers teach, it is he who is the true Good Samaritan, who has made himself close to us, who pours oil and wine on our wounds and takes us into the inn, the Church, where he has us treated, entrusting us to her ministers and personally paying in advance for our recovery. Yes, the Gospel of love and life is also always the Gospel of mercy, which is addressed to the actual person and sinner that we are, to help us up after any fall and to recover from any injury. My beloved Predecessor, the Servant of God John Paul II, the third anniversary of whose death we celebrated recently, said in inaugurating the new Shrine of Divine Mercy in Krakow: "Apart from the mercy of God there is no other source of hope for mankind" (17 August 2002). On the basis of this mercy the Church cultivates an indomitable trust in human beings and in their capacity for recovery. She knows that with the help of grace human freedom is capable of the definitive and faithful gift of self which makes possible the marriage of a man and woman as an indissoluble bond; she knows that even in the most difficult circumstances human freedom is capable of extraordinary acts of sacrifice and solidarity to welcome the life of a new human being. Thus, one can see that the "No" which the Church pronounces in her moral directives on which public opinion sometimes unilaterally focuses, is in fact a great "Yes" to the dignity of the human person, to human life and to the person's capacity to love. It is an expression of the constant trust with which, despite their frailty, people are able to respond to the loftiest vocation for which they are created: the vocation to love.]

What is the moral of our immoral or amoral Crisis?  After years of church and state “enforced-moral-schizophrenia,” escape seems almost as impossible for Church leaders and followers as it does the for rest of our society regardless of our religious orientation.  The truth can be verified by the simple fact that Pope John Paul II was well aware of our Crisis—he validated the victims as well as their suffering and urged Church leaders to offer compassion and help to all victims–one would think that had the Church given help to the victims and their perpetrators, our Crisis might be nonexistent.  Tragically, as perpetrators continue to receive preferential treatment, by default, victims continue to be silenced, degraded and manipulated through the use of their children by adulterous spouses and “civil” laws or trends.  Having to make a choice between God and one’s family or children is not a religious or civil justice.  It’s inhumanity at its worst because it reaches and violates the core of one’s soul, family and faith:  “Loneliness and other difficulties are often the lot of separated spouses, especially when they are the innocent parties. The ecclesial community must support such people more than ever. It must give them much respect, solidarity, understanding and practical help, so that they can preserve their fidelity even in their difficult situation; and it must help them to cultivate the need to forgive which is inherent in Christian love, and to be ready perhaps to return to their former married life.” 

Sadly, despite countless pleas from the Pope to help the victims—as the American Catholic Church continues to procrastinate—the numbers and pain of the victims continue to escalate.  By now, there are countless divorce and annulment ministries but NONE for faithful and innocent spouses and children violated by the endless cycles of divorce, annulments and remarriages.  As long as the Church remains indifferent and silent, so does our society.  “Yes, the men and women of our day sometimes truly find themselves stripped and wounded on the wayside of the routes we take, often without anyone listening to their cry for help or attending to them to alleviate and heal their suffering. In the often purely ideological debate a sort of conspiracy of silence is created in their regard. Only by assuming an attitude of merciful love is it possible to approach in order to bring help and enable victims to pick themselves up and resume their journey through life.”  Trauma behind abortion & divorce is enormous.  Tragically, due to escalation in the divorce and annulment mentality even within the Church, victims of divorce have not received ANY help or protection from church and state for over 30 years.  Help from fellow Catholics is also unavailable—most Catholics in stable two-parent homes are misinformed about the trauma of victimized families and actually escalate our society’s family Crisis by their indifference.  Consequently, relatively few Catholics are able to protect themselves, their children and their faith.  If the richness and clarity of Catholic laws cannot protect the victims, protection of non-Catholic & non-religious victims will be even more elusive unless truth about common innate needs of every individual is acknowledged and protected.  

There is no need for more studies, appeals or investigations.  There is a need for Church and State reforms to reinstate justice as well as a need to create a Reconciliation and Separation Ministry throughout America and the rest of the world.  With No-fault laws robbing parents of soul and sole custody over their children, the Catholic Church is the best source to initiate internal as well as social reforms.  Only proper authority, laws and leadership from the Church and other authoritative leaders can release current legal and social restrictions placed on Catholic priests, therapists, lawyers, scholars and laity.  The cancer on the wounded soul of our society should have been in remission decades ago—because our Crisis stems from lack of protective laws for children, further delays will be as painful and harmful as they will be dangerous for all of US … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”  

Catholic Divorce or Decree of Nullity & Remarriage vs. Reconciliation or Separation

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Pro-choice? … Except for Rare Stable Marriages, our society has only 2 options:  Family Prostitution or Family Persecution. 

Currently, Family Protection is not an option … Common sense would dictate that honorable spouses will always opt for faithfulness to their marital vows and protection of their loved ones—dysfunctional or morally ill spouses will always opt for mental or physical adultery and abortion of their family through divorce or annulment and remarriage.  Because almost every divorce has one guilty and one innocent spouse, when dysfunctional spouses abort responsible spouses, they automatically abort their marriage, children and faith.  If the opposite were true, there would be no divorce in the first place!

Needless to say, the MAIN cause of our society’s family crisis revolves around children.  Logic would dictate that morally ill spouses are not capable of love and will only fight for child custody mostly to make their family adulteration look decent and socially acceptable because child abandonment is still one of the few taboos still left in our society.  Although playing the role of a part-time parent fits into the dysfunctional parent’s deception, it is very damaging for the children, especially when adulterous or alternative partners also become automatic parents—because these tragic decisions are mandated by family courts, when responsible parents object to such violations, their pain and the agony of their children will be ignored.  Needless to say, most dysfunctional spouses will deny or lie about the truth even though the nature of all affairs calls for total emotional and financial needs to be directed on everything except the original family.  Facts speak for themselves—if the intentions of dysfunctional spouses were honest and in the best interest of their children, their families would never be at risk for divorce, annulments or remarriage.

To opt for a divorce, annulment and remarriage is to opt for a lifetime of cruel and unusual punishment for the original family as well as for all the blended families because instead of healing the dysfunctional spouse before the first divorce, current laws allow dysfunctional spouses to infect and victimize new spouses and children.  Because a faithful separation can offer protection against emotional and physical abuse, separation and reconciliation are the only healthy or pro-choices for ANY marriage at risk.  Tragically, even though religious and civil laws for separation have been on the books all along, they cannot be utilized mostly due to faulty leadership and favorable treatment of dysfunctional spouses instead of their victims. 

While most private individuals and experts will object or feel highly insulted by such generalizations, most will do so because they are already involved in the divorce mills personally or professionally.  Needless to say, victims never benefit from a divorce financially or spiritually while professionals benefit financially but not spiritually.  Unfortunately, even the best and most honest experts do not have just legal laws to work with—consequently, given the power of the dysfunctional spouses and the weakness of No-fault divorce and custody laws, holy rollers are as helpless and endangered as are all victims of our society. 

It goes without saying that private or professional differences about opinions are not the same as differences about basic and innate facts of life.  As such, cause and effect cycles of mental or physical adultery are elementary—religious, intellectual, physical, emotional and financial harm can be verified by applicable laws, facts and our own common sense or experiences.  Unfortunately, since violations, pain and objections of the victims are being silenced or ignored for almost 40 years, society is forced to rely on comatose, overruled or misinformed experts who follow faulty laws and force victims into spiritual and financial poverty.  Consequently, betrayal by our loved ones hurts us the most while betrayal by laws and experts causes the most damage.  How much longer should we wait for avoidable and illegal violations to continue?  Although law reforms were needed decades ago, even Pope John Paul’s appeal for “lawyers to boycott divorce” was ignored by secular as well as religious leaders.

Address of Pope John Paul II … 28 January 2002 (excerpts)

4. Countless men and women of all times and places have complied with this divine and natural plan, even before the Saviour’s coming and a great many others have done so after his coming, even without knowing him. Their freedom expands to the gift of God, both at the moment of their marriage and throughout their entire conjugal life. Yet the possibility always exists of rebelling against that loving plan:  then returns the “hardness of heart” that had led Moses to permit divorce but which Christ definitively overcame. To such situations as these, one has to respond with the humble courage of faith, a faith that supports and corroborates reason itself, to enable it to carry on a dialogue with all who are in search of the true good of the human person and of society. To treat indissolubility not as a natural juridical norm but as a mere ideal empties of meaning the unequivocal declaration of Jesus Christ, who absolutely refused divorce because “from the beginning it was not so” (Mt 19,8).

Marriage “is” indissoluble:  this property expresses a dimension of its objective being, it is not a mere subjective fact. Consequently, the good of indissolubility is the good of marriage itself; and the lack of understanding of its indissoluble character constitutes the lack of understanding of the essence of marriage.

One cannot give in to the divorce mentality:  confidence in the natural and supernatural gifts of God to man prevents that. Pastoral activity must support and promote indissolubility. The doctrinal aspects should be transmitted, clarified and defended, but even more important are consistent actions. Whenever a couple is going through difficulties, the sympathy of Pastors, and of the other faithful must be combined with clarity and fortitude in remembering that conjugal love is the way to work out a positive solution to their crisis. Given that God has united them by means of an indissoluble bond, the husband and wife by utilizing all their human resources, together with good will, and by, above all, confiding in the assistance of divine grace, can and should emerge from their moments of crisis renewed and strengthened.

9. The essential witness to the value of indissolubility is given through the married life of the spouses, in their fidelity to the bond, through all the joys and trials of life. However the value of indissolubility cannot be held to be just the object of a private choice:  it concerns one of the cornerstones of all society. Therefore, while all the initiatives that Christians, along with other persons of good will, promote for the good of the family (for example, the celebrations of wedding anniversaries) are to be encouraged, one must avoid the risk of permissiveness on fundamental issues concerning the nature of marriage and the family (cf. Letter to Families, n. 17).

Among the initiatives should be those that aim at obtaining the public recognition of indissoluble marriage in the civil juridical order (cf. ibid., n. 17). Resolute opposition to any legal or administrative measures that introduce divorce or that equate de facto unions-including those between homosexuals- with marriage must be accompanied by a pro-active attitude, acting through juridical provisions that tend to improve the social recognition of true marriage in the framework of legal orders that unfortunately admit divorce.

Lawyers, as independent professionals, should always decline the use of their profession for an end that is contrary to justice, as is divorce. They can only cooperate in this kind of activity when, in the intention of the client, it is not directed to the break-up of the marriage, but to the securing of other legitimate effects that can only be obtained through such a judicial process in the established legal order (cf. Catechism of the Catholic Church, n. 2383). In this way, with their work of assisting and reconciling persons who are going through a marital crises, lawyers truly serve the rights of the person and avoid becoming mere technicians at the service of any interest whatever.

How many lives have been ruined since No-Fault Divorce Laws were inflicted upon our society.  How many more families have been exterminated since 2002 by lack of due process and lack of action on part of all our leaders.  Given that relatively few families and spouses are left standing, a point of no return is near—Older generations and values are already being replaced by a new generation engineered to embrace self and other abuse, abortion, adultery, divorce, cohabitation, gender reassignment and all other alternatives.  Even though the older generation was silenced and overruled, at least they maintained their honor and went down fighting.  Sadly, with our new generation being raised on family and social adulteration, honor is becoming as rare as stable individuals and families.  As such, truth in information and divorce reform are not only our right but also a vital necessity … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”  

Catholic Therapists, Lawyers & Priests vs. Secular Doctors, Lawyers & Freudian Chiefs

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A challenge to all religious and secular Eggheads:  After all, “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander?” 

The Beauty and Duty of the Roman Catholic Religion are mutually inclusive.  Similarly, all fundamental laws governing the Catholic Church and each family as the Domestic Church, are not only quite simple but also universal.  Unfortunately, because not everything is as it should be, a close examination of our society’s family Crisis is more than vital–it is also urgent.   

Since all traditional religions are in agreement on innate laws and values of life, why don’t their “experts” or leaders agree on a uniform application of such laws?  Also, if Catholics still consider the Catholic Religion as the goose that laid the golden egg, why do so many Catholics disagree or violate various laws or teachings of the Church.   Because all traditional religions or philosophies have been experiencing similar calamity, the scope of our Crisis seems as endless as its roots … from laws to leadership.

Because our Crisis is as old as it is fresh, a 1995 address by His Holiness Pope John Paul II would make a good starting point: 

3.  It is not enough, then, to appeal to the human person and the person’s dignity without first endeavoring to form an adequate anthropological vision, which, on the basis of reliable scientific findings, remains anchored in the fundamental, principles of the perennial philosophy and is illumined by the vivid light of Christian Revelation.

This is why at a previous meeting with this Tribunal I referred to “a truly complete vision of the person.” and warned against certain trends of contemporary psychology that, “going beyond their own specific competence, are carried into such territory and are introduced under the thrust of anthropological presuppositions which cannot be reconciled with Christian anthropology” (John Paul II, Address to the Tribunal of the Roman Rota, 2 [5 Feb. 1987]). These presuppositions, in fact, offer a view of nature and human existence that is “closed to values and meaning which transcend the immanent factor and which allow human beings to tend towards the love of God and of their neighbor as their final vocation (Ibid., 4).

4.  Thus it is helpful once again to call the attention of ecclesiastical tribunals to the unacceptable consequences resulting from—erroneous doctrinal approaches, which have negative repercussions on the administration of justice and, in a particular and even more serious way, on the handling of cases of marital nullity. Moreover, for many years specific canonical legislation dealing with the consultation of medical specialists and experts in psychiatric science and practice has expressly warned that “care must be taken to exclude those who do not adhere to sound [Catholic] teaching in this matter” (Pius XI, Provida Mater Ecclesia, 15 Aug. 1936, in AAS, 28 [1936], p. 343, art. 151).

Only a Christian anthropology, enriched by the contribution of indisputable scientific data, including that of modern psychology and psychiatry, can offer a complete and thus realistic vision of humans. Ignorance of the fact that they “have a wounded nature inclined to evil,” the Catechism of the Catholic Church warns,” gives rise to serious errors in the areas of education, politics, social action and morals” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 407; cf. no. 410 ff.). It would be equally misleading to forget that human beings have been gratuitously redeemed by the sacrifice of Christ and enabled, despite the influences of the world outside and within him, to do good and to, make life-long commitments.

5.  All this can only lead to an ever greater esteem for humans’ sublime nobility, their inviolable rights, the respect owed to them even when their actions and behavior become the object of judicial investigation on the part of legitimate authority in general or of ecclesial authority in particular.

Given that innate or natural needs of a Catholic child, mother or father are not much different than those of any Christian, Jew, Atheist and others, how do experts account for “professional differences” over the indissoluble nature of each family or the injustice of No-Fault Divorce Laws.  Because only ”experts or leaders” have the power to shape private laws and public trends, how do our “luminaries” plan to restore truth, justice and empowerment or begin to end social con-fusion over contraception, infertility, abortion, euthanasia, addictions to mental or physical adultery, cohabitation, divorce, remarriage, homosexuality and other dysfunctional behaviors?  Sam Beamer …  “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”